The Dreaded Baby Question


When a couple unites through marriage, life together is now an open topic for discussion with family/friends. That meaning: which family are you spending the Holidays with, when are you going to purchase a home, and one of the most intrusive questions…when are you guys planning to have kids??? Breathe, we just said “I do.” Some people asking these questions are simply talking for conversation-while others are being intrusive. People, please me sensitive about the questions you’re asking and the level of comfort/closeness you have with the individual. Please factor these potential reasons why a couple may not have kids.

Four Reasons A Married Couple Faces When Asked, “When Are You Having Kids”

1. The couple may have difficulties conceiving a child. When couples are trying to get pregnant, it can be insensitive to ask them the “When are you guys going to have a baby” question. Couples may have to seek alternative ways on building their family by the means of adoption or surrogate.
2. The couple may choose to not have kids. Whaaaaaaa??? Yes, some people does not want to have kids and it’s okay. The couple may not feel the need to share or explain their reasons on Why.
3. Couples may want to enjoy their coupledom before having kids. We heard that the first five years of marriage is difficult. So, if couples choose to strengthen their relationship before including kids…that’s great!
4. The couple may not be financially ready to insert kids to the family dynamic. No additional explanation, it is what it is.

How To Respond to “When Are You Guys Going To Have Kids”

1. When the good Lord feels the need to bless us with kids. Even if you’re not the religious type, this Southern polite non-confrontational approach will be received well.
2. A bit of humor puts people at ease without allowing them into your personal business. “I don’t think the world is ready for another Demi-God roaming on earth.”
3. Change the topic or kindly excuse yourself. “Oh my, I forgot to make this important call…I’ll be right back” And, then stay away long enough to start having another conversation with someone else. Stay aloof if the individual comes back and is still persistent. Then respond with either 1 or 2.


2 thoughts on “The Dreaded Baby Question

  1. Danielle says:

    I joke with my sister all the time about after she’s married, she’d better be giving me a niece so I don’t have to concieve as off yet 🤨 lol (however) you definitely have some valid points and I think people are sort of insensitive to them and so used to l saying the cliche things and following traditions that they don’t give thought too. Thanks for the good read xoxo

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